Lesson Learned

All the time when my husband and I are having life discussion, disagreements, or arguments, his answers to my questions never seem to satisfy me.

So, what do I do? I ask the same thing or say the same thing in a different way, all-the-while expecting a different response.

What do I get? The same response! It’s frustrating to say the least. At the same time, I can only now understand just how frustrating it is for him when I’m not accepting the answer or response he’s giving.

How easy it is to hope for one answer, how easy to needle for one specific response, and how easy it is to get angry when said response is not given.

However, over the last year or so, I have been getting badgered about things by someone outside of my family that I deal with quite frequently. I get questions, arguments, and disagreements all phrased differently but saying the same thing. I suppose said person gets quite frustrated with me when my response doesn’t change. As I said, after these quite frequent episodes, I can now understand how frustrated my husband must feel when I keep asking/stating my concerns/worries expecting a different response from him.

I have learned:

You can’t explain something unless you have all the facts first and even then, maybe it’s just not explainable.

Sometimes, we just have to accept things are how they are, without any explanation or side discussion.

Not everything is meant to be understood. Not everything will make sense during the time it is happening.

And that’s where faith steps in. That’s where faith makes its’ debut.

Do I always trust what my husband is doing, the decision’s he’s making, the choices put before him? Do I trust the Lord will do right by us if we listen to Him?

What can I say? I’m a work in progress.

From what I’ve finally learned about acceptance, though, has made me realize I owe my husband an apology.

Honey, from the very depths of my heart, I apologize.

I apologize for second-guessing you.

I apologize for creating problems (during moments such as I’ve mentioned) by not listening and/or accepting the response you’ve given.

I am sorry for being so darn argumentative sometimes.

Speaking of my love-bug, he just pulled up Heart

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate”

Mark 10:9

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