A job that’s paid for with hugs and kisses, love and laughter, squeals (sometimes just plain roars!) and arguments, playtime and bedtime, school work and reading just because…
and so much more!
It’s a 24/7/365 lifetime commitment made with every ounce of love and maybe a little craziness in my heart.
What do people see when they look at me? Well, for starters, if they know me then they see ‘that woman with all them kids.’ If they don’t know me, then they probably see a woman like any other, one with commitments and responsibilities. They may wonder if I have a family (husband, children). And then again, they may not.. They might not give two hoots about me which, oddly enough, is perfectly fine with me.
But, just to clarify……
Yes, I am that woman with ‘all them kids’.
I am exactly her.
I am that mother that wakes up at 3 am just to check on all my kids to make sure they are still sleeping soundly for no other reason than to put my fears to rest.
I am that mother that tries to make every basketball, football, TKD, dance class that I can because I don’t want to miss a thing. Not a thing.
I am that mother that will play kickball with my kids in the back yard on a summer afternoon, but refuses to play outside in the snow (for the most part) on a wintry afternoon.
I am exactly that mother that cooks a big breakfast on a Saturday morning while only sandwiches, salad, and fruit the night before as supper.
And, yes, I am that mother that teaches my children at home because I believe I can give them a better education than the public school for many different reasons but probably not one that you are thinking.
I’m also that mom who lets her children play outside. Alone. In our backyard. I might, MIGHT!, even let my older kids go for a bike ride without me hovering over their shoulders.
At the same time, I am that mother that will read stories to my kids at night and say prayers and then make them stay in their own beds so the next day, I can be that mother all over again.
I am that mother that has many hobbies, but hardly any of which I start actually get finished because I am busy trying to take advantage of every second I can with my kids. One day may come sooner than I’d like and God forbid it does, I will be able to say, I enjoyed them for as long as I had them.
Rest assured though, I am also that mom that loses my temper and raises my voice and says terrible things periodically because I am human. If we can’t admit our faults then we have a problem.
I am that mother that wants nothing more in this world but for all of my children to love one another as much as I love each and every one of them.
I am that mother that looks at my children only to see my babies rather than the age they see themselves. All the while, I am fighting to hang on when I know, I have to let them spread their wings.
I am that mother that will be judged, will judge others, will gladly accept praise or not. I am comfortable in my abilities as a mother and need nobody’s approval. If I need advice, I have a healthy support system that can offer it. There is nobody in this world that can mother my kids the way that I do and that’s why God blessed me with them. The same can be said of most mothers.
I am that mother that teaches my children to stand up for themselves because, in all actuality, if I don’t teach them to stand up for themselves, the world is teaching them they can’t.
At the same time, I am also that mother that will have a conversation (however cordial depends on the attitude of the other person) with other parents of children that are bullying my children. Because, I want my kids to know how to stand up for themselves, but I also want other parents to be aware of what’s going on. It’s just easier that way.
Yes, I am that imperfect mother with the imperfect kids living in an imperfect world with a grace afforded only to mothers.
I am that mother that cries for other parents’ pain because it could so easily be my pain.
I am that mother who looks at my children to see their positive traits as well as the negative ones.
I am that mother that leaves notes of encouragement for my children or sends an encouraging text to the cell-phone age children.
As if it needs to be said, I am also that mother that stays up past bed time to make sure my teenagers that have gone out for the evening return safe and sound.
Excitingly enough, I am that mother that relishes the imperfections because those same imperfections inspire us (parents and children) to learn, to grow, and to change.
I am that mother who holds tightly while giving room to grow, if that’s even possible!
I am no different, yet I am all kinds of different than other mothers.
So yes, I will say proudly, that I do have a job. I am not only a mother, but I am THAT mother.
I wouldn’t change it for the world
because as they say…..
I may not have the perfect life, but when I look at my family, I know I’ve done something in my life perfectly right.
And that, my friends, is all she wrote