“Nobody can love, teach, encourage, or support my child/ren the way that I can. God made me their mother for a reason way beyond my understanding. And I trust what He’s doing for us.”
One topic in the media that gets covered quite frequently is parenting.
There are parenting books, parenting classes, parenting tips, parenting magazines, parenting plans, parenting this and parenting that.
Each of these choices offers its own version of how to be a good parent.
You gotta do this.
You gotta do that.
Oh no, you can’t do that.
Oh my, my, my, you really shouldn’t do that.
Here, let me give you some advice…..
We are definitely not lacking ‘how-to’ advice in the parenting sector of society.
Heck, the childless adults seem to think they know better than the adults that actually have children.
I mean no disrespect to psychologists, therapists, mental evaluators, parenting coordinators, mediators, etc., etc. All of these types of people may be and very well are encyclopedias of knowledge. They may know oodles and oodles of advice, tips, and ‘how-tos.’ They may have read a gazillion books on the makings of a good parent. They are probably well-informed about different living conditions, relationship scenarios, living arrangements, and custody issues.
That’s all well and good. As I said, I mean no disrespect toward anyone.
I would like to point out that each and every one of us is created uniquely. God tells us:
For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them. – Psalm 139:13-16
With that said, I quite firmly believe that nobody can parent my child/ren the way that I can. God gave me the children that I have and them me as their mother for reasons beyond our own comprehension, reasons we may never know. He knows what He’s doing because He also gave women the ability to fulfill whatever His wishes are for said mother/child relationship. No other woman in the world can love my child/ren the way that I can. No other mother can smile at my child the way that I do. There’s not another woman anywhere that can make my child/ren feel loved, feel safe, feel secure in the same way that I can. I am unique to my children and my children are unique to me.
So, even with the highest college degree that can be obtained, another person cannot, should not tell me how to love my child because yes, we are different and generalities cannot do justice to the mother/child relationship.
Personally, I will turn my fears, my doubts, my failures, and my questions over to God in prayer. But, thank you. Thank you for your advice. Thank you for your explanations. Thank you for your expert opinion, but I think….I will trust that God knows what He’s doing. Go ahead, you can trust Him, too. He’s got this. As stated in Hebrews:
4:13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
God knows the in’s and out’s of everything. He knows every possible outcome for every situation imaginable and beyond. We only have to trust in Him.