Today, I am going to gush about my husband.
Recently, my sister offered to let the kids spend the night with her. All of them!
I was definitely on board with that. It’s moments like these that my husband and I can enjoy one another’s company, just he and I.
And all marriages need that!
For that evening, we chose to go on a date. We went for a night on the town (no alcohol involved). Our days of alcohol induced fun are over. Now, we relish a night out, dining at one of our favorites restaurants, and talking adult talk.
On our date, I fell in love with him all again over, which tends to happen when we can focus just on one another. My husband has always been a gentleman. He’s always asks me first where I want to go, what I want to do. But, I can say with very heartfelt appreciation, that my father- and mother-in-law done a wonderful job raising their boys to be gentlemen and their daughters to be ladies.
“A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.” – Proverbs 29:23
Did you know something so simple as, “Honey, I love how you always hold my hand,” can make him feel on top of the world? It does! And It’s wonderful. I really enjoy making him feel loved and appreciated.
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” – Ephesians 5:22
Please take note that the above verse does not mean that my husband rule over me. It does mean that I trust him enough to let him lead our family to the Lord.
Love is often a word we take for granted. Many may believe that when we love another or another loves us somehow equals no pain, no heartbreak. This simply not true because we are still only human. The other day I read someone’s post of Facebook: “I guess love isn’t forever.” When I read those words, I simply did nothing but say a quick prayer for her. Love can be forever. Will it forever be the early stages of love, utopia, that we all envision as children? No, but it will be a deeper, more satisfying love that marriages are built on to last.
“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” – Colossians 3:14
When my husband and I had our date night, as I said, we were totally focused on one another. We put away our cell phones, sat opposite one another so we could look at each other, and we talked quietly over our meal. It’s Afterwards, we went for a cruise through town, and stopped for a bit just to walk with one another, in peace. In love.
We didn’t do much by way of entertainment, but we still had an amazing time. We enjoyed the company of one another and were able to talk about things we haven’t talked about in years, almost getting to know one another all over again.
So, for all the young wives, newly married wives, some advice I’ve learned over the years:
- Pray with your husband every night. Make that time with him a priority where God can continue to work in each of you and in your marriage. My husband and I not only pray together, but we also practice family prayer each morning and night.
- Make date nights with your spouse a priority. Enjoy something with him that you don’t normally enjoy because it’s not about the action itself, it’s about growing with your spouse. To continue to grow a relationship, the two people involved must spend time together, learning about the other, and loving one another.
- Rather than just listen to him, ask questions that will further the conversation. Show genuine interest in the things he’s interested in. When a woman shows interest in her man and his hobbies, he feels important to her. Men don’t think anything like a woman and need affirmation that their woman remains interested.
- Use kind words when speaking to him or about him. As they say, hate begets hate. You don’t hate your husband, but the things said in anger or frustration can and do have a lasting effect on the person that is referred to. It also shows others lack of respect for the spouse which leads to their own lack of respect for said spouse. Even more importantly, it leads one to believe the nasty words oneself. The more the words are said, the easier they get to say because the words become so ingrained in one’s way of thinking. I can attest to this. I have proven this theory many times over. When I am nice, he is nice. One person in the marriage has to make the move to be nice always or it becomes a battle of wills, in which case, both suffer.
There is so much more than that, but I will leave it at that for now.
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”
– Mark 10:9 –