Life Moments #2: the Little Things

My husband likes to grow his beard. I mean Duck Dynasty kind of beard. We’ve been together 13 years and it hasn’t always been like that, only the last few years.

Once he starts growing it, he’ll let it grow for months and I probably nag him about it about half the time.

And then one day…

Boom!

Just like that he decides to shave and start the process over again.

Well a few months ago, when the weather turned cold, he decided it was time to let it grow.

Oh, did I forget to mention that I don’t particularly care for a full, Duck Dynasty kind of beard.

Yeah, I really don’t.

So anyway, his beard is growing and growing until it’s a full, Duck Dynasty kind of beard…..

again….

until one day…..

He just shaves it all off.

Now as much as I appreciate his clean-shaven face, I feel bad….almost guilty…..when he shaves because I never really know if it’s the teasing/slightly nagging words of his wife or his own choice that leads to his decision to shave.

One day I will learn….

This time, however, we were both enlightened,ย  so to speak.

We have one daughter who had a complete meltdown. I mean, fist-pounding, high-pitched squealing kind of meltdown. And she let him have it!

She said something and he responded jokingly with, “are you telling me I’m ugly?” as he winked at me. She screamed, “yes. I think you’re ugly.” Mind you, she’s four. She proceeded with her meltdown with, “get some glue to glue your hair back on your face,” just as innocently as you may please, smack dab in the middle of her meltdown.

And then one daughter reacting the exact opposite. She told him she didn’t like all that hair, with her five year old sass, just as matter-of-factly as a any grown-up.

So,ย  what say you.

We definitely aren’t lacking spirit in our home.

Spirit or shenanigans.

And now we know how, at least two of,ย  our children feel about facial hair.

Blessed be the little people that surround us.

It’s the little things…….that make our hearts swell ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

 

 

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Happy and Blessed 2018

Yes, it’s another New Years post! Happy New Year!

And yes, we are celebrating with sparkling cider ๐Ÿ˜Š

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It’s that time, yet again, for all the well-intentioned new years’ resolutions complete with the ever-so-popular weight loss resolutions, new year-new me resolutions, pay-off-my-credit-card resolutions, live-a-debt-free-life resolutions along with a multitude of equally yet totally-reachable goals that somehow never or almost never get met for any number of reasons.

For me, my new years’ resolution is quite simple: to live my life more fully immersed in the life God gave me, to embrace everything He is and everything He created me to be in order to spread the goodness of Him to those around me. My goal is to lead my children, by example, to everlasting life. He affords us many graces, answers many prayers (maybe in the way we want or maybe not), and is always the strength we need to endure the trials we face. His love is unabounding, His forgiveness is an absolute miracle – a miracle that we should not take for granted, and His wisdom is boundless. He only asks us to love Him and to love others as He loves us.

So, as you ring in the new year, as you make your new years’ resolutions remember we are who we are because God created the world. Remember Him in your resolutions. Remember Him in your every day life.

Happy New Year. May you all have a blessed New Year complete with God’s love and promises.

Over Coffee #4

My Goodness! It’s been over a year since we had coffee. I’d love a hot cup of joe, how about you? So much has happened soย please join me and I will tell you all about it.

If we were having coffee right now, the first thing I would tell you is my oldest son graduated this past May. He and his girlfriend got a place together over the summer. They are doing well, both on break from college, but will be back at in January.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d be excited to tell you we welcomed our newest addition, a baby girl in August so I have my hands full with her.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that all the kids are in school this year except the baby and our 4yo who still gets to be home reminding me how much she wants to be in school with her siblings. I am quite impressed with the girls’ school this year, Montessori was implemented in 1 and 2 grade. Next year the Montessori program will be school-wide. We are quite excited for that! Five out of seven children are attending provide school this year, but only the girls’ school uses the Montessori program.

If we were having coffee right now………your well aware that we just celebrated the Birth of Jesus Christ (Christmas). Most everyone attended Christmas Vigil, but I had a sick one so the baby and I stayed home with her. I was able to attend the Christmas Mass the next morning, though. I appreciated that time with the Lord.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you all about all the wonderful chances I’ve had to volunteer this year. For Halloween or All Saint’s Day, I helped at the girls’ school for an afternoon with games. I so enjoy being part of such a close-knit group of people. The school they attend is small, less than 100 students, so everyone knows everyone. Everyone is very friendly and inviting. The staff is excellent. I also had the opportunity to ‘sit-in’ on my youngest child’s class. The teachers allow this periodically in order for parents to get a better understanding of the daily happenings in a Montessori classroom. I volunteered to be part of the Starry Night Sweetheart Ball committee. Being part of the committee has opened doors for me to meet other parents as well as to offer my support to what happens throughout the school year.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d end our little chat by telling you how much I’ve enjoyed your company. We mustn’t let so much time escape between visits.

A New Series: Life Moments……Life Moment #1

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Our lives are full of ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and disappointments. These inevitable parts of life can be draining or fulfilling, but with God by your side the moments will seem less draining or more fulfilling. God is with us every second of every hour of every day. No matter how draining a moment may be it is still a moment to be treasured, to be thankful for. In this new series, I hope to encourage others to turn to God and to never give up.

Life moment #1

My husband called me out on something the other day, something that I say that has been irritating to him for years and he yelled at me about it when I said it that day during a phone conversation with him. Much to your chagrin, the ‘what’ doesn’t matter as much as the lesson. Anyway, I don’t take kindly to being yelled at but it was an easy enough fix, I just hung up on him. Feeling justified in my anger at being yelled at, I went through it in my head what I would say to him when he got home.

First, I would let him know how much I dislike being yelled at, which I’ve already done a million and one times. Then I would tell him how mean he is. And then I’d storm away with all my justified anger. I’d probably say a few more things just because. And I would wait, expectantly, for the apology I felt I was owed.

But,

as I was planning all of this in my head,

it suddenly came over me…..

I do, in fact, say the exact kind of stuff that he just yelled at me about.

So now,

I waited, in earnest, for him to walk through the door so I could deliver the apology I owed him.

Which is exactly what I did when he walked in the kitchen a short while later.

Lesson: We cannot change or ‘fix’ others….not our spouses, not our friends, not our children or anyone else, we can only change ourselves and that is only possible with God’s grace, forgiveness, guidance, and love.

A Time for Unbridled Joy

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As my children anxiously await Christmas Day, I am reminded of that excited spirit of my own as a youngster when Christmas Day finally arrived. Not a consistent church going family as a child, I knew of Jesus and that Christmas was His day, but I considered it more for us than for Him. I am thankful that my children know differently, but they also put what they know into practice. Their excitement for Christmas continues to grow as they age and their understanding of Jesus’ s birthday matures.

Sadly, many adults in the world have lost their excitement for Christmas through loss of faith or loss of childhood years (age-wise). They are no longer children with a zest for life. Instead, they are adults with an accumulation of bills, wealth for some, broken-ness (finances and spirit) for others, and a boatload of stress. And still others are just stuck in a I-don’t-want-this-life mindset.

Ladies and gentlemen, as you and your family approach Jesus’ s birthday, look kindly upon strangers, open your hearts to forgiveness of the wrongs against you, and be thankful for whatever life you have not only because the next person may or may not have it worse than you do, but also because our Savior is alive within all of us. We only have to acknowledge Him and allow Him to work in our lives. Remember the reason for the season. Acknowledge it. Love it. Live it. And your excitement for Christmas will return tenfold.

Mine has.

When I gaze upon the tree in our home,ย  I am in awe of the season. When I witness the love of my family and friends and strangers around me, I am in the presence of Jesus. I couldn’t ask for a better way or reason to be excited.

Merry Christmas

Coping with Loss

Have you ever wondered how people can get so down when it comes to the loss of a pet?

I mean, I can understand the deep sadness when it comes to human life because that is true tragedy.

However, I could never understand such sadness when it came to losing a pet.

But as many of you know, our family pet – a dog – who we called Ruthie got ran over the other day and now I understand how people get so down about that type of loss.

So, for anyone whom I’ve ever crossed paths with who lost a beloved pet and to whom I didn’t show any understanding, maybe even lacked compassion, I truly want to say I’m sorry.

Our loss happened this past Saturday and we are still grieving.

I just keep reminding myself that it wasn’t anyone’s fault and we need to move past it, but it’s hard. She no longer roams the yard, no longer tries to get into our vehicles, is no longer at our heels as we walk around outside and Iย no longerย catch glimpses of her from the living room windowย as she sprints up the back hill. My son, Ruthie’s trusted friend and trainer, hasn’t been sleeping well due to having dreams of her during the night. As anyone knows, when we are alone with our thoughts and not busy with the day’s activities, our mind slows down and begins to wonder. My son’s mind always wonders to dear Ruthie. When he talks about her during the day, he’s fine and seems to be coping with it pretty well, but it’s those darn evenings and nights when he’s not busy with something else that he seems to get emotional.

Through his tears, his siblings’ tears and my tears, I just keep trying to encourage him to remember the goodness she brought to his life and what he fulfilled in her life. And of course, as his mother I only want to make him feel better. I want to make the pain go away and………

I. Simply. Can’t.

That is a hard truth for me to accept.

So, eachย day since Ruthie’s accident, I encourage him to talk about her. To me. To his brothers. To his dad. He’s even taken to wearing her collar as a bracelet of some sort, if only after school.

Even though my heart wants to make his feel better, I realize there’s not much I can do other than let him grieve.

But it breaks my heart.

Here are a few tips I have learned throughout the loss of our dear Ruthie:

  • we can’t tell one another how to feel
  • remembering her and what she brought to our family, to his life encourages healing
  • having a funeral for the beloved pet which also leads to acceptance and encourages healing
  • create a memory book or keep a picture of pet

Most of all, don’t be as lacking in compassion and understanding as I was, but offer solace to someone who has lost a pet. To many people it can be almost or just as devastating as losing a loved human life.

A Sad Day

Wow! I know! It’s been too long since I posted anything….since March of this year.

And……

So much has happened since then!

But……

The focus of this post is…..

What this day turned out to be.

It started on a pretty positive note. My daughter has a birthday coming up so I decided to take her for a painting session as part of her birthday gift. A friend of hers joined us and then afterwards we went for lunch. After lunch, I took them to the park and waited for the little girl’s mother to meet us. From there, we left to come back home.

And that’s where the day turned a little….okay, a lot……crappy.

Once my daughter and I arrived home, I came inside to feed the baby who was crying, ready to nurse. As I walked in the door, one of my sons came from the kitchen and right away, just by the look on his face, I knew something wasn’t right so I asked him what was wrong. He broke into tears when he told me his dog had been run over.

And my heart broke right there in the entryway.

Our family is not really the ‘animal’ people type, but our Ruthie grew on us. My husband and I had decided previously that we weren’t going to get any more dogs because we had already had two and it just didn’t work out. We gave them away to better homes.

But…..

One day on our way home, the kids and I stopped at a rummage sale and my son noticed the puppies that were for giveaway and begged me to bring it so maybe his papa would train it for him.

And, against my better judgement……

I gave in.

That was a year ago in August. So our little Ruthie was only 1 year and 2 months this month….

and…..

today she died.

It broke my sons heart because she was technically his dog. He’s been the one investing his time in training her. She listened to him. She ran after him. She followed him everywhere.

So, for us who aren’t really ‘animal’ people, today was extremely hard because my sons’ heart got broken and that broke my heart.

He cried.

And cried….

And cried some more.

And to make matters worse, I had absolutely no idea what to say to him to make him feel better.

RIP Miss Ruthie…..Mr. L will sure miss you bunches. Actually, we all will.

June 2017 (774)

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