Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood

Natural

I have to say that this daily prompt is kind of fun.

And, yes! It has everything to do with being a mom. As many of you know, or at least I hope it’s known, I am a family person. I love anything family. Cookouts. Celebrations. Reunions. Vacations. My life revolves around my family, namely my husband and children. Most of my posts are in some way tied to family, mine or someone else’s.

Anywhoo, this post is about…..

You guessed it!

Childbirth.

I have 8 children which includes a set of twins. I have given birth to all 8 of these children, but the twins came by c-section.

I once heard someone say or I read somewhere – I can’t really remember – that if a woman has children by c-section then she’s not really mom.

Ummm, what? Can you say that again? I’m not sure I heard you correctly.

So, I guess me giving birth naturally to six children only makes me a mom to those six children. The twins….well I guess we would consider them motherless children is as they were born via c-section.

Let me tell you, I distinctly remember being pregnant for 34 LOOONNGGG weeks with my twins, through the HOTTEST part of the summer. I distinctly remember how miserable I was in the heat outside as well as inside because the window AC couldn’t keep up. I am certain I remember trying to shave my legs with a watermelon X2 in my stomach which as any woman knows is NOT an easy feat. Yeah, I’m pretty sure that emotional roller coaster ride of pregnancy, my husband (their dad) and I divorced about 1000 times and we weren’t even married yet! I also have pretty good memory of the nausea that kept me in bed for 3 solid months. I could barely get up long enough for a potty break during those early months. I distinctly remember going to each and every appointment to hear their heartbeats, take tummy measurements and yes, step on that dreaded scale. I also remember going into labor not once, not twice, but three times before the doctor would allow them to be born because we wanted them to be as healthy as possible. I also remember on the last round of labor, the nurses pushed on my stomach ALL NIGHT LONG trying to find heartbeats and the pushing around on my stomach caused two angry babies to switch from both heads down position just a few days earlier to one head down and one breach resulting in the emergency c-section that somehow makes me less of a mother.

Boy, it really is amazing all the memories that come to light for someone who isn’t a mom.

Okay, enough with the sarcasm. Now for encouragement…..

For all of you giving-birth-by-c-section-non-moms out there, be loud and proud with your right to carry that very special and well-earned title of MOM because honey….

You Are Most Definitely a Mom!

Okay, I may not be the brightest bulb in the box about many things in this so-called life. I’m terrible at politics. I know almost nothing about vehicles or gardening or the computer for that matter. I don’t claim to be a whiz in geometry, english, or catterwalling (sorry, I thought that was funny and had to throw it in there 😉 ), but I know mothering and I do it well. Very well, actually.

It doesn’t matter how you’ve become a mom: natural birth, c-section, adoption, whatever has struck your fancy in that regard, if you have a child or children that you care for on a daily basis, that you’ve nurtured from the moment that little person was placed in your arms, that you love with every ounce of your being, that you protect with every fiber of your body, and that makes you replicate the same feeling that said child/ren is having at the very same time, all without expecting a darn thing back in return then you are most definitely a mom.

So don’t worry moms or non-moms (by the opinion of some very unintelligent people),

We’ve got this!

Keep on mothering……

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood

Co-Parenting

There’s a new way to parent for parents that are not together. It’s called co-parenting and as with anything, there are some disadvantages and advantages that come with it. I am not here to give an opinion either way or to sway anyone else’s opinion. This is simply my own experience.

There’s a couple of songs that portray shared parenting. And of course, they are country songs. If you know me, then you know that I am a country fan. The rock and pop stuff just doesn’t bode well with me. Okay, maybe some 😉

Anywhoo…….

These song titles are:

Highway 20 Ride – Zac Brown Band (My fav)

Every Other Friday at Five – Trace Adkins

If you don’t know these two songs, they talk about getting every other weekend visits with dad. Now, if you are parent that goes through this then you know how hard it is for all parties involved.

So, from my own experience, I have two children that come to me only on weekends and summer visitations and one child that goes to his dad every other weekend plus summer visitation. For this first two children, these two songs apply weekly, but for the one child, it applies to me for 6 weeks in the summer and it’s hard. Every two weeks he comes home for the weekend and when he goes back to his dad’s, I cry every time (not within his presence of course because I know it’s hard for him to and he doesn’t need to carry the burden of my feelings). At the same time, I carry the burden of his feelings because well…..that’s what mothers do. I look at him on these weekends that he’s home when it rolls around to Sunday and I can see the tears threatening to fall from his pretty blue eyes and it breaks my heart. It breaks my heart because I can’t stop it. I breaks my heart because I don’t have a choice. It just breaks my heart because I want to shield him, shield all of my children, from the heartbreak in the world.

But I can’t and…..it breaks my heart.

When these Sunday’s roll around, I can sense the change in his mood. I can see the anxiety written all across his face. He tries to be strong. He tries to hide those feelings. But, I’m his mom and any mom understands that we are one with our children, even when they grow old. Every Sunday (on his weekends home), it’s the same. He gets quiet. He gets sad. He gets short with his brothers and he a bit clingier than normal.

However, I put on my big-girl panties, I hug him close and tell him it’s gonna be alright. We’re gonna miss him a ton and can’t wait to see him again, but we hope he has lots of fun with his dad because we know he loves his dad and his dad loves him. And I reassure him that through those two weeks that he’s gone, we can talk every night and say a prayer with him, because at home, that’s what we do.

To all the parents that know this struggle:

I can do all things through him who strengthens me. -Philippians 4:13

 

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood, Wifehood

An Update to Changes

I didn’t realize how hard it would be to have my notice turned in and be waiting on my last day to arrive.

Because it is!

After nights and days of prayer, I am confidant that I made the right decision, but it seems like since then, I have all these doubts floating through my head.

  • I am letting my co-workers down.
  • I am letting my family down.
  • I will be short on cash.
  • I am going to miss my co-workers, my friends.

And so much more!

As I anxiously await The Day, my heart is heavy, my eyes fill with tears that go un-shed, and my mind wonders about the upcoming days ahead. At the same time, I long for the days the days that I can spend with my children, picking up the role as stay home mom once again, that role that allows me to be with them, to teach them about life, to show the them importance of God’s role in our lives.

I am sad, but I am happy.

I am scared, but I fear not.

And I feel alone.

Change has not been my friend for a long while.

But, at the same time, I hear in my heart, a whisper so soft and encouraging,

Rest your weary soul, my child, My strength is your strength. Pour your heart out to me as I am here to console in the hard times.

I suppose these inner arguments are normal. I suppose to question one’s decision is to be expected. I suppose the doubts the will dissipate, but knowing all of this, doesn’t make it any easier.

My fears carry one. My doubts will subside. My questions may or may never be answered, but the decision to revitalize my role as a stay-at-home mother will benefit my family and make my children happy — in the long run it will make me happy as well beings my calling is devotion to mother =hood. How can a person go wrong with that?

Jesus tells us Do Not Worry “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. -Matthew 6:25-34

I am trusting God that He lead me to the right decision and I will leave all my cares in His hands.

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood, Wifehood

Changes

As you all know, I have turned in my notice as work so that I may better care for my family. My family needs, my guidance, my love, my everything to ready them for life beyond parents…..a point in life that all children start to look forward to once they reach a certain age. And to be honest, I don’t have many of these good years left. As any parent knows, all the years are considered the good years, but these I guess I’m selfish and want to be present for all moments in the their lives I will never get to do again –which just so happens to be every single day of their life. Once these moments are gone, the years, they’re gone for good. I want to be part of this. For years, I anticipated getting a job, to get out of the hum-drum of daily life as a stay home mom so when I got this job almost a year ago, I envisioned my future with it. I love my job. I love the people I work with. I actually have other adults to conversate with. It wasn’t hard for to me to go to work…..

until the work days just kept coming.

until I realized how much of my children’s lives I was missing.

until I felt my heart growing heavy with missing my husband and my children.

until my heart grew heavy at the sadness I encountered with my kids every time I had to leave for work.

Going to work has become a burden.

So now, I am left with an ache to be home with my family, enjoying my children, doing the most important thing I will ever do: be there to support and encourage my husband while giving my whole heart to doing what I have been called to do – mother my children.

However, now I have a whole new set of concerns: leaving my job, my co-workers, this part of me. I have to keep telling myself: there is good reason for this. This change is necessary. I keep trying to come up with ways that I can keep my job, but then that defeats the whole purpose of my quitting the job.

As a child, if my memories aren’t playing tricks on me, change wasn’t hard for me. As adult with my own family, change has become difficult. Turning in my two-week notice the other day, made my question my choice. It shouldn’t be this hard to quit a job, but it is. And just for a little history in the work department, I haven’t held a job for more than 6 months since I had my oldest child so obviously quitting a job has never been hard for me. It’s different now and I can only credit the people I work with for that improvement. As I said, I became very close with the ladies that I work with.

The greatest moment of this decision came when I told my children when my last day of work will be. They were so excited. One response: “Really? Like for this year or from now on?” he questioned with anticipation. From now on, I said. They are happy!

Even though this decision has been a hard one, wrestled with in my mind and prayed on for a few weeks now, my heart is lighter knowing what it’s all for. Lesson learned! To appreciate each and every day. To take complete advantage of time with them at each stage of their life because we are teaching them what they need to know and we are building their faith in God. Now, I will be able to focus on these things more.

I very much have some sadness in my heart about my upcoming departure, but I know I will be doing the most important job of my life and I will be able to do it with the full attention that it deserves. This is the lesson I have learned.

One of my favorites quotes in the Bible (that I have memorized 🙂 ):

Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

I am truly blessed.

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood, Wifehood

Praise

Hey yall, I just want to say Praise the Lord! God is so good! Praise the Lord!

Today was a hard day for me, but after pretty much 1/2 the day sending up my prayers, God has healed my broken heart of today.

I am ready for whatever trials and/or triumphs that I may endure or enjoy tomorrow.

Praise the Lord!

I’m so excited with His presence in my life, I don’t really even know what to say

other than…..

Praise the Lord!

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Wifehood

Make Me an Instrument of Your Peace

Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace
Where there's hatred, let me sow love
And where there is injury, pardon
And where there is doubt, then faith
And where there's despair, then hope

It's in dying that I will be born 
And in giving that I will receive
It's in loving that I will be loved
This is my faith, it is what I believe
Lord, make me an instrument
Make me an instrument

Lord, I am a stranger traveling 
In a brutal yet wondrous land
Far from the promise of home
On a journey led by Your hand 
To where the lion lies down with the lamb

Father, grant that I'd never seek 
To be comforted as to console
Let the blood of Your Son cover me
Touching my spirit 
Seizing my soul

Lord, make me an instrument
Lord, make me an instrument
Lord make me your instrument

Let Your divine mystery guide my heart
It's in dying that I will be born
And in giving that I will receive
It's in loving that I will be loved
This is my faith, it is what I believe

Christ within me
Christ before me
Christ behind me
Christ above me
Christ beneath me
To my left and my right
Christ where I lie and where I arise
Christ in the hearts of all who think of me
Christ on the lips of all who speak of me
Christ in the eyes of all who see me
Make me Your instrument, Lord
Make me Your instrument, Lord
Make me Your instrument, Lord
Make me Your instrument, Lord
Make me Your instrument
Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood

The BIG Blue Sky

Way up high

in the Rolie Polie Sky

is a little round planet

of a really swell guy.

He’s Rolie Polie Olie

He likes to laugh and play.

And in his land of curves and curls,

this is how he spends his day……

Pages 1 and 2 of Rolie Polie Olie by William Joyce

This is my girls’ favorite book. It’s been all my kids’s favorite book and I’m quite excited to say that I’ve had it for 16 years. To understand why that’s exciting for me, you’d need some understanding of my life.

This book is the first thing that popped into my mind when I think of the word sky. I have read it over and over and over again. I used to be able to recite almost the whole book by heart. It brings back fond memories of my boys as infants and toddlers while letting me live in the now with my girls.

Whenever I sit outside, enjoying the sunny days, I look up to the sky, a different shade of blue in almost every direction, dotted with the beautiful, white ‘cottonballs’, I think of that book. I think of the many nights I sat with that book, reading those silly words to my children. I think of the many nights I have sat under a cloudless night sky sprinkled with glittering stars and the oh-so-bright moon shining down on me.

There is just something about the sky, either the day or the night, that relaxes me, makes me feel so small in the universe that I almost can’t fathom anything beyond. There’s something so enchanting about being under the night sky, when the world around me is sleeping. I just feel so peaceful. My mind is at peace. My heart is at peace.

So, I just sit back and soak it all in. I think to myself, what a beautiful canvas that God has created for all of us to enjoy. It’s a reminder to me to be thankful for all that God has blessed me with in this beautiful life.

“Your loving kindness, O LORD, extends to the heavens, Your faithfulness reaches to the skies.” – Psalm 36:5

Daily Encourgement, Life in General, Motherhood, Wifehood

My ‘Roundup’

One of the best things I like about blogging is the chance at ‘meeting’ new people. As I’ve said in a few of my posts, I am a bit of a shy person at first, but once you get to know me and vice versa, you will find that I am pretty darn silly sometimes. I am outgoing and annoyingly happy and devoted (to anyone I care about). I have a heart of gold and I am very loyal. These attributes can’t be seen right off the bat because of my shy nature.

Anyway, since I started blogging about a year ago, I have found that I absolutely love it. I need not fear people’s responses because I can approve what gets put on my blog. I do try to keep it real, though.

Here, I have put together a ’roundup’ of blogs that I either find funny, endearing, heartwarming, real, or helpful to me. I have so many favorites, it’s hard to narrow it down, but…. here goes it…..(I’m allowing myself 5)

  • the first one I will mention is Not Your Average Mom (this is one of the first blogs I started reading). I appreciate how she can tell it like it is. I admire that quality.
  • the next one I want to mention is We Are THAT Family. Again, this was one of the first ones I started following. I appreciate the importance of faith for this family.
  • The next one on my list is The Daddy Blitz. The very first post I read on this blog really snagged my heart. It made a lot of sense and it was very helpful. This blog offers sensible advice and/or perspective in a few areas, but my favorite is as a parent.
  • Another one of my favorites is The Grizzle Grist Mill. Again, this blog offers heartfelt insight to raising children and seeking God. The posts are always so full of wisdom. I learn so much here.
  • The last one I want to mention is Shells Shizzle. I love her blog because she is always so positive and encouraging which is something I believe the world needs. We need more kindness in the world, here you can find that.

For those listed, I thank you for your wisdom, words of encouragement, helpful tips, honesty, and kindness that you offer on your blogs. If you not listed and I follow you, don’t feel bad that you’re not listed because I learn from each of you as well or I wouldn’t be following you, so thank you, too. I am inspired by each and every one of you, mentioned or not 🙂